WALKING WITH HIM

Therefore, as you received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in him, rooted and built up in him and established in the faith, just as you were taught, abounding in thanksgiving. [Colossians 2:6-7 (ESV)]

img_9079awebWhile visiting family in California, I joined my daughter-in-law and her walking group on their morning hike. The leader advised us that it was about a six mile walk—what she didn’t mention was it was all uphill for the first three plus miles. Although we started off together, the group quickly fragmented. The leader and some exceptionally fit and fast walkers were in the lead. I was in the middle group; unfamiliar with the area, I was not about to lose sight of our leader and risk getting lost. Behind us was another group and, bringing up the rear, were three stragglers who abandoned us within the first twenty minutes. After an hour of walking uphill, we finally reached level ground and heaved sighs of relief. The dozen remaining walkers stopped briefly while our leader explained the rest of the course—about a mile more of climbing before starting the descent back to the parking lot. At that point, mutiny occurred and more than half the group decided to take an easier and mostly downhill route back. Used to the flatlands of southwest Florida, I was happy to join my daughter-in-law in her desertion.

While not everyone in the hiking group chose to walk that day, Christians are expected to walk with Jesus every day. Just thinking about Him or praying is not enough—walking implies action. We’re to show up every morning for our walk, rain or shine. On my recent hike, only a few kept pace with the leader. When we walk with Jesus, however, there’s no lagging behind; we keep His pace. In fact, we walk in His footsteps—not behind him, not around him and certainly not ahead of him. Although some people deserted our group as soon as it became difficult, walking in Jesus means we don’t quit when faced with challenges. When Jesus takes us on a difficult uphill route, we’re not allowed to rebel when we disagree with His plans. Jesus told the disciples it wouldn’t be easy but, like our hiking leader, He rarely explains His entire plan. That’s why it’s so important to walk with him; if we lag behind or barge ahead on our own, we’ll lose sight of Him and get hopelessly lost.

Walking in Jesus doesn’t mean occasionally getting together for a stroll or that we’ll meet Him if and when our paths happen to cross. It doesn’t mean we just wave and call out casual greeting when we feel like it and it certainly doesn’t mean we get to quit when the going gets tough. Walking in Him is a 24/7 lifetime commitment.

Unlike our walking leader, who planned the same route and established the same pace for fifteen different women of varying ages and abilities, Jesus designs a route and sets a pace that is uniquely designed for each one of us. We’ll never be alone and, while the path may be challenging, it will always be doable—but only if we walk in Him.

He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God? [Micah 6:8 (ESV)]

But whoever keeps his word, in him truly the love of God is perfected. By this we may know that we are in him: whoever says he abides in him ought to walk in the same way in which he walked. [1 John 2:5-6 (ESV)]

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TRYING HIS PATIENCE

But God was patient with them forty years, though they tried his patience sorely; he kept right on doing his mighty miracles for them to see. [Hebrews 3:9 (TLB)]

Don’t you realize how patient he is being with you? Or don’t you care? Can’t you see that he has been waiting all this time without punishing you, to give you time to turn from your sin? His kindness is meant to lead you to repentance. [Romans 2:4 (TLB)]

great-blue-heronPatience may be one of the fruits of the Spirit but there appears to be a shortage of it in my life’s orchard. Paul tells us that hardships teach us patience and patience develops strength of character but I imagine most of us are impatient to see all of that character building come to an end. Moses must have grown impatient leading the Israelites all those years, yet consider the patience God had during those same forty years as He dealt with His children’s disobedience, ingratitude and complaints. In fact, consider how patient God has been with mankind since the beginning of time. We err and stray, forget and disobey, ignore, defy and even deny Him, yet He still hasn’t given up on us. Mercifully, we have a God who loves us and, as Paul tells us, love is patient and kind. Remembering that the measure we use to give will be used to measure what we receive, we must be patient with others if we want God to be patient with us.

Father, forgive us for frequently trying your patience and for having so little patience ourselves. Please give us patience: patience to wait and let children mature, patience for relationships to develop, patience for other people’s sentences to be completed, patience for projects to be finished, patience for questions to be answered and problems to be solved, patience for tempers to cool and relationships to mend, patience with our own shortcomings and those of others, patience for healing to occur, and patience for prayers to be answered. Strengthen our hearts with your love and fill our lives with your Holy Spirit so that our lives are filled not just with patience but also with peace, joy, restraint, integrity, steadfastness, compassion, and loving-kindness.

For if you give, you will get! Your gift will return to you in full and overflowing measure, pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, and running over. Whatever measure you use to give—large or small—will be used to measure what is given back to you. [Luke 6:38 (TLB)]

Dear brothers, is your life full of difficulties and temptations? Then be happy, for when the way is rough, your patience has a chance to grow. So let it grow, and don’t try to squirm out of your problems. For when your patience is finally in full bloom, then you will be ready for anything, strong in character, full and complete. [James 1:2-4 Living Bible (TLB)]

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THE “WE” MARRIAGE

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Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. [Romans 12:10 (NLT)]

Today is my 49th wedding anniversary and, as I was looking for material for a message about marriage, I came across a 2010 article from the New York Times. Titled “The Happy Marriage is the ‘Me’ Marriage,” it asserted that marriage is no longer about putting the relationship first. People in what the author calls a “sustainable marriage” have spouses who “make their lives more interesting.” In something called “self-expansion,” partners “sculpt” each other “in ways that help each of them attain valued goals.” As for sculpting my partner, I may have sanded off a few of his rough edges in all these years but no relationship is sustainable when we’re trying to change our partner instead of ourselves!

I then linked to “The Sustainable Marriage Quiz” where questions were to be answered on a scale of one (not very much) to seven (very much). According to the author, the higher the score, the happier and “more sustainable” the marriage would be. It asked questions about how much our partner increased our ability to accomplish new things, increased our knowledge, resulted in our having new experiences, or was seen as a way to expand our own capabilities.

The article and quiz seemed to put the burden of our growth on our spouse. Granted, our spouses should motivate and encourage us—that’s what love does. Nevertheless, it remains our task to improve ourselves and become more accomplished, knowledgeable, interesting, and capable. The responsibility for our happiness and growth falls squarely on our shoulders, not those of our spouse. I think of the character in Jerry McGuire who said, “You complete me.” Becoming complete is not someone else’s task; it is ours!

No relationship lasts if it becomes stagnant but I wonder how long anyone can sustain an effort to keep giving one’s spouse new experiences, skills, or knowledge. As much as I love adventure, there is something delightful about doing some of the same things again and again with the person I love! The article cited research done at universities and I suspect the subjects were younger. Their concept of a “long-lasting relationship” was probably quite different than mine. When I think of a relationship as “sustained,” I think in terms of several decades not just a few months or years.

Although I believe the happy marriage is the “we” (rather than “me”) marriage, the truly sustainable marriage has a third party in it—God. As my husband and I have grown in our faith, we have grown in our love for one another. The more God-centered our marriage has been, the richer our relationship and the happier we have become. At close to half a century together, ours is not just a long-lasting relationship, but also one that is truly satisfying and sustainable. It is sustained by the grace of God through prayer and hard work. It is sustained by the effort we each make every day to love one another in a way that both meets our needs and honors God. It is sustained by thinking “we” and not “me.” It is sustained by a commitment to make the marriage work and by remembering that “love never gives up.”

Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. [1 Corinthians 13:7 (NLT)]

The question is asked, “Is there anything more beautiful in life than a boy and girl clasping clean hands and pure hearts in the path of marriage? Can there be anything more beautiful than young love?” And the answer is given. “Yes, there is a more beautiful thing. It is the spectacle of an old man and an old woman finishing their journey together on that path. Their hands are gnarled, but still clasped, their faces are seamed, but still radiant; their hearts are physically bowed and tired, but still strong with love and devotion for one another. Yes, there is a more beautiful thing than young love. Old love.”  [author unknown, found in “Stories for a Faithful Heart” compiled by Alice Gray]

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WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE

The Lord will give [unyielding and impenetrable] strength to His people; The Lord will bless His people with peace. [Psalm 29:11 (AMP)]

Wiggens pass sunsetI have a small wooden box on my desk—my “God box.” It’s where I literally give my concerns to God; right now there are three items in it. The first is a photograph of a little girl. It is my grand, a sweet child with three congenital heart defects—none of which is going to disappear and all of which promise more trouble in the future. She also has learning issues—none of which will dissipate and all of which will cause more difficulty as she progresses into higher grades. The second item is a medallion from a sobriety program. It represents several people I love who have battled alcoholism or addiction—a battle they will continue to fight daily for the rest of their lives. The third item is a laminated card on which is written Reinhold Niebuhr’s Serenity Prayer. That one is for me.

I tend to be a fixer and once believed that, if I prayed hard enough and searched long enough, there was a solution for every problem. Surely, if something was wrong, it could be corrected. I’ve now accepted that not everything is fixable. There is no way anyone can fix my grand. Granted, she regularly works with a tutor, has an excellent cardiologist, and will be having more surgery. Her problems can be helped but they won’t disappear. My prayer for her is no longer one of miraculous healing; it is one of thanks and praise for a one-of-a-kind child. It’s not a prayer for change but rather a prayer for a joy-filled life and success within her limitations. As to the sobriety of those I love, their problem has never been mine to fix—their sobriety is their task, not mine. My prayers for them are for success in their challenging daily journey. As to the Serenity Prayer, that’s my challenge—to have strength enough to repair that which can be corrected, peace enough to accept that which can’t be altered, and wisdom enough to know and accept the difference. God never promised life would be easy; He did, however, promise His peace.

Thinking that every difficulty has a solution, we give God our problems (and the problems of others) and ask Him to solve them. Not everything that is broken will be repaired, not every disease will be cured, not every puzzle will be solved and not every problem can be resolved, nor are they even meant to be. Not everyone in Israel was healed as Jesus walked the streets and the “thorn” in Paul’s flesh never left him. Some situations are unfixable and must be accepted. As Niebuhr did in his prayer, we must pray for the wisdom to know the difference between what can be changed and what can’t. Then, of course, we need to pray for peace, acceptance and coping skills. Instead of fixing the problem, we need God to fix us.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; enjoying one moment at a time; accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it; trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will; that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever in the next. Amen.

Peace I leave with you; My [perfect] peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your heart be troubled, nor let it be afraid. [Let My perfect peace calm you in every circumstance and give you courage and strength for every challenge.] [John 14:27 (AMP)]

Now may the Lord of peace Himself grant you His peace at all times and in every way [that peace and spiritual well-being that comes to those who walk with Him, regardless of life’s circumstances]. The Lord be with you all. [2 Thessalonians 3:16 (AMP)]

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DELAYS

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When the people saw how long it was taking Moses to come back down the mountain, they gathered around Aaron. “Come on,” they said, “make us some gods who can lead us. We don’t know what happened to this fellow Moses, who brought us here from the land of Egypt.” [Exodus 32:1 (NLT)]

Moses had been absent for thirty-nine days receiving the law from God when the people grew restless and impatient. In spite of freeing them from Egypt and parting the Red Sea, this God of Moses didn’t seem to be one of action. Although they were safe, rested and well fed, the people were tired of waiting for Moses to return. People may even have doubted that Moses would ever return and they despaired of ever getting to the Promised Land. Wanting to make things happen at their own pace, the Israelites decided to make some new gods to lead them; they gave up just one day too soon!

Like the Israelites, it’s easy to lose faith when things don’t move along as we hope. We’ve had our lake house for sale for several years and have faithfully prayed for a buyer. Before putting it on the market, we asked God’s direction and we have no doubt that selling this house is His plan for us. “We did our part, so where is the buyer?” I ask Him. “All in due time,” seems to be His answer. Like the Israelites, I’m about to give up hope; and, like them, I want to move on.

I need to remember that what seems like a delay on God’s part is really just my unrealistic expectations concerning His plan. The Israelites expected Moses to return in a few days’ time and I expected a buyer to appear within the first month, or at least the first year. The Israelites were safely camped so there really was no urgency and yet they despaired. We’ve enjoyed several more summers watching the grands catch fireflies, make s’mores, ride in the tube, catch crappies and play in the lake. So, why should I despair? Instead of despairing, I should take advantage of this gift of extra time with family and friends at the lake. The Israelites were unwilling to submit their timetable to God and I’m no different. God, however, does not run the world on my timetable. The economy is not going to improve nor are banks going to change their policy regarding financing for second homes just for my convenience. The Israelites were big on grumbling and so am I. Another spring has rolled around and I know that, once we return north, we’ll have to clean the house, wash the windows and decks, get out the patio furniture and do a whole list of other chores. Instead of grumbling, perhaps I should learn to rejoice in having the privilege of owning this house.

Father, forgive us when we want what we want right now. Replace our despair with hope, our impatience with patience, our worry with trust, our doubt with confidence and our grumbling with joy. Help us accept that, whether we like it or not, your timing is always perfect.

Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying. [Romans 12:12 (NLT)]

But you must not forget this one thing, dear friends: A day is like a thousand years to the Lord, and a thousand years is like a day. 2 Peter 3:8 (NLT)

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TAPPING OUT

If you think you are standing strong, be careful not to fall. The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure. [1 Corinthians 10:12-13 (NLT)]

I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, and I have remained faithful. [2 Timothy 4:7 (NLT)]

hairy woodpeckerRalph Waldo Emerson said, “Life is a journey, not a destination;” I thought of that quote when reading an article about a local man who attempted an unsupported solo ski trek from the edge of the Antarctic to the South Pole. This experienced adventurer spent several years preparing for the expedition and rigorously testing his equipment. With extras of nearly everything, he was sure he’d planned for every eventuality. What he hadn’t anticipated was encountering one of the worst summers the Antarctic has experienced, an issue with a ski that caused him constant soreness in his right foot, and a cracked teapot! The teapot (the lone one he had) was the only way he could melt snow and, without it, he’d have no water. Reluctantly, he asked a support plane to airdrop a new pot and, in spite of his best intentions, the trek changed from unsupported to supported. Then, a combination of wind and foot pain took their toll. Although he’d planned on making ten to twelve miles a day, no matter how hard he pushed himself, he averaged only eight and his supplies dwindled. After over 300 miles and thirty-six days alone on the ice, he approached an area where a plane could safely land. If he continued at his pace, he would definitely need more supplies. Moreover, there was an excellent chance that, if and when he arrived at the South Pole, extraction planes would no longer be flying. Although he’d have bragging rights for attaining his goal, penguins could be the only ones who’d ever hear his boasting. Weighing his options, he decided it was time to leave. “For me, turning back is never the wrong decision,” he said.

Not all of our goals are achievable and not every destination will be reached. If we are clearly following God’s plan, He’ll provide a way to continue. If it isn’t, He’ll provide headwinds and sore feet or other valid reasons to stop. I think of Paul’s words in 1 Corinthians 10 that promise God will show us a way out so that we can endure. Sometimes, the way out is simply saying, “I quit!” Stopping allows us to heal, grow, strengthen, restock, change direction or learn from our mistakes.

At times, we might even need to quit when things seem to be going our way! In an amateur MMA fight nearly two years ago, the fighter who was clearly winning tapped out and deliberately lost. Realizing his opponent was either too proud or too foolish to quit, and knowing he’d seriously injure the man if the bout continued, the superior fighter ended the match. He could have had bragging rights for the win but understood there would be no joy if that meant he’d caused severe harm to another man.

Whether to continue or quit requires prayer, discernment and common sense. Quitting is often the wisest (and the hardest) thing to do. We get so intent on finishing the race in the winner’s circle that we forget the important thing is how we run the race. Both the Antarctic adventurer and the winning fighter who tapped out made the most of their journeys and successfully ran the race God set before them.

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us. We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith. [Hebrews 12:1-2 (NLT)]

The Lord directs the steps of the godly. He delights in every detail of their lives. Though they stumble, they will never fall, for the Lord holds them by the hand. [Psalm 37:23-24 (NLT)]

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