FIREFLIES

You are the light of the world—like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden. No one lights a lamp and then puts it under a basket. Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand, where it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your good deeds shine out for all to see, so that everyone will praise your heavenly Father. [Matthew 5:14-16 (NLT)]

catching firefliesWarm summer nights at the lake mean campfires, s’mores and fireflies. As the darkness descends, bug jars appear and the children start chasing these fascinating insects. How odd that the same child who will shirk away from any insect during the day will give chase to and capture these flashing winged beetles at night. By the end of the evening, the children have collected a jarful of tiny flying stars (that will be released as soon as the little ones are tucked into bed).

Officially, they are Lampyridae—unofficially, they are the lightning bugs that bring magic to our yards and smiles to our faces. They have little light factories in their abdomens that take in oxygen and combine it with luciferin and other harder-to-spell chemicals to produce light with no heat. Actually, these bioluminescent creatures are just highly efficient flying light bulbs!

Unfortunately, many scientists believe Lampyridae are disappearing from the landscape because the grassy meadows and ponds that were their home are now parking lots and housing developments. The bugs’ biggest threat, however, comes not from urban sprawl or pesticides but from the lights that accompany civilization. Fireflies light up so they can communicate with one another and each of the 200 species has its own unique flash pattern. What we see on a summer’s night is actually a firefly’s version of a singles’ bar. As they flit around flashing their lights, they’re looking for a mate. The glow from parking lots, street lamps and car headlights can interrupt a firefly’s signals for several minutes meaning these tiny guys can’t find one another to do what fireflies must do to survive.

While watching my yard light up with these flying light factories, I think of how Jesus calls us to be the light of the world. Like fireflies, we are to shine in its darkness. Just as children are drawn to the firefly’s light, people should be drawn to ours. As Christians, we should sparkle and shine and be a welcome sight to all who encounter us. That glow of love should help others recognize us for what we are—followers of Christ. There’s no need to chase and capture us since we’ll joyfully share the source of our light with others. But, like the firefly, the world around us threatens our survival. While it’s light that endangers the firefly, it’s the world’s darkness that endangers ours. We must never let it keep us from shining brightly.

Heavenly Father, thank you for the blessings of summer nights and for the fireflies that remind us to shine our lights brightly in the darkness of this troubled world.

 All the darkness in the world cannot extinguish the light of a single candle. [Francis of Assisi]

The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness can never extinguish it. [John 1:5 (NLT)]

Feed the hungry, and help those in trouble. Then your light will shine out from the darkness, and the darkness around you will be as bright as noon. [Isaiah 58:10 (NLT)]

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THE “WE” MARRIAGE

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Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. [Romans 12:10 (NLT)]

Today is my 49th wedding anniversary and, as I was looking for material for a message about marriage, I came across a 2010 article from the New York Times. Titled “The Happy Marriage is the ‘Me’ Marriage,” it asserted that marriage is no longer about putting the relationship first. People in what the author calls a “sustainable marriage” have spouses who “make their lives more interesting.” In something called “self-expansion,” partners “sculpt” each other “in ways that help each of them attain valued goals.” As for sculpting my partner, I may have sanded off a few of his rough edges in all these years but no relationship is sustainable when we’re trying to change our partner instead of ourselves!

I then linked to “The Sustainable Marriage Quiz” where questions were to be answered on a scale of one (not very much) to seven (very much). According to the author, the higher the score, the happier and “more sustainable” the marriage would be. It asked questions about how much our partner increased our ability to accomplish new things, increased our knowledge, resulted in our having new experiences, or was seen as a way to expand our own capabilities.

The article and quiz seemed to put the burden of our growth on our spouse. Granted, our spouses should motivate and encourage us—that’s what love does. Nevertheless, it remains our task to improve ourselves and become more accomplished, knowledgeable, interesting, and capable. The responsibility for our happiness and growth falls squarely on our shoulders, not those of our spouse. I think of the character in Jerry McGuire who said, “You complete me.” Becoming complete is not someone else’s task; it is ours!

No relationship lasts if it becomes stagnant but I wonder how long anyone can sustain an effort to keep giving one’s spouse new experiences, skills, or knowledge. As much as I love adventure, there is something delightful about doing some of the same things again and again with the person I love! The article cited research done at universities and I suspect the subjects were younger. Their concept of a “long-lasting relationship” was probably quite different than mine. When I think of a relationship as “sustained,” I think in terms of several decades not just a few months or years.

Although I believe the happy marriage is the “we” (rather than “me”) marriage, the truly sustainable marriage has a third party in it—God. As my husband and I have grown in our faith, we have grown in our love for one another. The more God-centered our marriage has been, the richer our relationship and the happier we have become. At close to half a century together, ours is not just a long-lasting relationship, but also one that is truly satisfying and sustainable. It is sustained by the grace of God through prayer and hard work. It is sustained by the effort we each make every day to love one another in a way that both meets our needs and honors God. It is sustained by thinking “we” and not “me.” It is sustained by a commitment to make the marriage work and by remembering that “love never gives up.”

Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. [1 Corinthians 13:7 (NLT)]

The question is asked, “Is there anything more beautiful in life than a boy and girl clasping clean hands and pure hearts in the path of marriage? Can there be anything more beautiful than young love?” And the answer is given. “Yes, there is a more beautiful thing. It is the spectacle of an old man and an old woman finishing their journey together on that path. Their hands are gnarled, but still clasped, their faces are seamed, but still radiant; their hearts are physically bowed and tired, but still strong with love and devotion for one another. Yes, there is a more beautiful thing than young love. Old love.”  [author unknown, found in “Stories for a Faithful Heart” compiled by Alice Gray]

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BE MINDFUL

So then, as occasion and opportunity open up to us, let us do good [morally] to all people [not only being useful or profitable to them, but also doing what is for their spiritual good and advantage]. Be mindful to be a blessing, especially to those of the household of faith [those who belong to God’s family with you, the believers]. [Galatians 6:10b (AMPC)]

peacock“Be mindful to be a blessing…” After reading Paul’s words as translated in the Classic Amplified Bible, I thought of a comic I recently saw in the newspaper. (Oddly, I get lots of inspiration from the comics and I’m not sure what that says about my intellect.) Nevertheless, in “Nancy,” written by Guy Gilchrist, it’s Nancy who is reading the comics page. The speech balloon says, “Today’s Motivation: Let your presence be a gift to all you meet!” The next panel shows her walking down the street. Instead of her typical hair ribbon, she is wearing an enormous bow and a gift tag that says, “To you!”

Although the Amplified version speaks of being “mindful to be a blessing”, most other translations of Galatians 6:10 say to help or do good when the opportunity arises. Being mindful implies a conscious and deliberate action—an effort to discover or even create those opportunities. Nancy’s attempt to make her presence a present seems the perfect example of Paul’s words. We certainly don’t need to decorate ourselves or wear ribbons and gift tags, but we do need to thoughtfully set out to be a blessing each and every day. Of course, we should seize every opportunity there is to do good but, perhaps, we should make more of an effort to initiate ways of being a blessing to others.

Father, keep us mindful of ways in which we can truly be a blessing to everyone we encounter today. Make us alert to ways that our demeanor, words, and actions can lighten people’s burdens, bring joy to their hearts and put smiles on their faces. May our presence never be a source of strife, irritation or annoyance—rather, let it always be a gift and a blessing.

Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God’s favor) to those who hear it. [Ephesians 4:29 (AMPC)]

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STAMP OF APPROVAL

What sorrow awaits those who argue with their Creator. Does a clay pot argue with its maker? Does the clay dispute with the one who shapes it, saying, “Stop, you’re doing it wrong!” Does the pot exclaim, “How clumsy can you be?” How terrible it would be if a newborn baby said to its father, “Why was I born?” or if it said to its mother, “Why did you make me this way?” [Isaiah 45:9-12 (NLT)]

feet -ints 2awebWriting about my granddaughter yesterday made me think about birth defects. In actuality, all of us have what could be called birth defects—it’s just that some are more obvious than others. While all of God’s children have defects, none are defective. I consider a young man at our Florida church. Cerebral palsy keeps him strapped into a wheel chair and his physical limitations are immense. There is, however, nothing defective about this bright young man. I ponder the enthusiastic grocery worker with Down’s syndrome. She may have an extra chromosome, but there is nothing defective about her. I think of a fellow at church who has no ears. He may be deaf but there is nothing defective about him, nor is there anything defective about a friend’s grand born with only a partial arm and hand or my grand, with her heart defects and learning issues. They are all marvelously made—different from others, but no less wonderful.

Have you ever given any thought to how you were made? From biology 101, we know that a sperm and an egg met. That egg, however, was one of about 1 million your mom had at birth, one of some 300,000 she had at puberty, and one of the 300 to 400 eggs that she’d ever ovulate. So on your mom’s side, you were one in a million. As to that tiny sperm that won the race to the egg—there were about 150 million (or more) other sperm that could have fertilized it if they’d been stronger swimmers. If your conception had occurred in another month, it would have been a totally different egg and another one of 150 million or more sperm and you wouldn’t be you—you’d be someone entirely different! Apparently, the odds of you existing as you are about one in 400 trillion…and I don’t think that takes in the probability of your parents ever meeting let alone loving one another enough to make a baby! There is nothing haphazard about the way we got put together. We are, indeed, marvelously made.

I had a friend who called her son “Oops!” because he wasn’t planned. My mother-in-law responded that in her day, before effective birth control, most babies were “Oops!” While pregnancies may not be planned, there is nothing accidental about the way we are made. When I was little, I asked my mother why I had a belly button. She told me that babies were assembled in heaven and, as they moved along the assembly line, God inspected them before sending them to their earthly mothers. After carefully looking over each baby, He gave a poke to its tummy and said “You’re perfect!” Our belly buttons were His stamp of approval. Her explanation, while neither biologically nor theologically correct, reminds me that God makes no mistakes—there are no “oops!” on His heavenly assembly line.

You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. [Psalm 139:13-16 (NLT)]

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THE TIE THAT BINDS

Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace. For there is one body and one Spirit, just as you have been called to one glorious hope for the future. There is one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all, who is over all, in all, and living through all. [Ephesians 4:3-6 (NLT)]

columbineBack in 1765, Dr. John Fawcett became the pastor of a small church in Wainsgate, England. Although his congregation of farmers and shepherds paid him a modest salary and donated wool and potatoes to them, the growing Fawcett family struggled to make ends meet. When a prestigious London church extended a call to him, Fawcett accepted and preached his farewell sermon. The family’s belongings were loaded on their wagon when parishioners gathered around him and begged him to stay. When his wife cried, “Oh John, John, I cannot bear this,” the pastor agreed. He ordered the wagon unloaded and remained at that parish for 54 years. Tradition has it that Fawcett wrote the words to “Blest be the Tie” in commemoration of that day.

I thought of that old hymn as we packed up our car last month. Having sold our Colorado house, we were departing from our beloved mountain town. It has been our winter home for more than twenty-five years and we’ll miss the skiing and snowshoeing, the après ski fun, our revolving door of visiting friends and family, the bluebird skies and knee-deep powder, meeting people on the gondola, treks through the snowy woods, the winter carnival and torchlight parades, and the juxtaposition of cowboys, skiers, ranchers, snowboarders, tourists, locals, mountain bikers, fishermen, ski racers and rodeo riders that made our town so unique.

We shed no tears when bidding farewell to our house, skis, snowshoes, parkas and other gear. We did, however, shed tears at leaving our Colorado friends and the friendships that grew, not from a love of the mountains but from our mutual love of God. Caretakers we inherited from our home’s previous owner became our first town friends and their faith through the years was inspiring. A hairstylist with spiked purple hair guided us to friendships in a youth ministry and that SK8 church ministry led to even more friendships with people of faith. A sign on the bus led us to a church that offered much more than an opportunity to worship and hear the word of God—it offered fellowship and friendship with other believers and we became part of a family of followers. A friend introduced me to a women’s ministry which now connects me to twelve other Christian women writers. There is a tie that binds us all together that has nothing to do with snow reports, mountain conditions, or hiking trails—it has to do with our shared love of Jesus and faith in God.

Unlike Pastor Fawcett, we couldn’t change our minds and unload our car at the last minute. A new family has moved into our home and new memories will be made there. Unlike him, I’ve not written a hymn to commemorate our departure. I will, however, share his words and thank God for the tie of love that binds us together with our brothers and sisters in Christ.

Blest be the tie that binds Our hearts in Christian love;
The fellowship of kindred minds Is like to that above. …
We share each other’s woes, Our mutual burdens bear;
And often for each other flows The sympathizing tear.
When we asunder part, It gives us inward pain;
But we shall still be joined in heart, And hope to meet again. …
From sorrow, toil and pain, And sin, we shall be free,
And perfect love and friendship reign Through all eternity. [John Fawcett]

Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful. Let the message about Christ, in all its richness, fill your lives. Teach and counsel each other with all the wisdom he gives. Sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs to God with thankful hearts. [Colossians 3:14-16 (NLT)]

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FILLED WITH JOY

Light shines on the godly, and joy on those whose hearts are right. [Psalm 97:11 (NLT)]

I will be filled with joy because of you. I will sing praises to your name, O Most High. [Psalm 9:2 (NLT)]

CLOWNSWhat makes us happy? Could it be a phone call from a good friend? Is it when we’ve made a profit in the stock market or received a large commission check? Are we pleased when our checkbook balances on the first attempt or when the accountant informs us that a large tax refund will be in the mail? Are we happy when someone sends us flowers or our child brings home a good report card? Does finding the ideal gift for our spouse’s birthday or receiving the perfect gift for ours give us happiness? Would we be happier if we could enjoy two weeks at a luxury resort or had a state-of-the-art home theatre or gourmet kitchen?

Happiness tends to depend on external circumstances. Joy, however, is something we can have regardless of what is occurring around us. We are made happy by something that happens to us. In contrast, we are filled with joy by something that happens in us: God’s love.

We’ve all known people who almost radiate with joy. They seem to light up a room when they enter it. When we analyze their lives, however, we often find situations that would surely bring us unhappiness. Their family might be in debt, the husband may be unemployed, or a child might be developmentally disabled. They may have a chronic illness or be in physical pain. In spite of their troubles, however, these people seem incredibly blessed—they’re so much at peace and so full of joy. Why? Because, true joy is not dependent on circumstances. It comes from a steady relationship with God. Whenever I get to know people who sparkle with joy, I discover that they are radiating the joy that comes from a relationship with God. When our lives are linked with God, they will be filled with joy, no matter what our condition may be.

Our God is so wonderfully good, and lovely, and blessed in every way that the mere fact of belonging to him is enough for an untellable fullness of joy! [Hannah Whitall Smith]

Don’t be dejected and sad, for the joy of the Lord is your strength! [Nehemiah 8:10b (NLT)]

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