PARTY ETIQUETTE

No, when you are invited, go and take your seat in an inconspicuous place, so that when your host comes in he may say to you, “Come on, my dear fellow, we have a much better seat than this for you.” That is the way to be important in the eyes of all your fellow-guests! For everyone who makes himself important will become insignificant, while the man who makes himself insignificant will find himself important. [Luke 14:10-11 (PHILLIPS)]

monarch-butterfly-thistleI recently made up the guest list for my mother-in-law’s 100th birthday party. Shortly before the party, I will determine the seating arrangements and decide who gets to sit with the birthday girl and who gets to sit with the various youngsters. Without place cards, everyone will want to sit with the guest of honor and no one will be anxious to sit with the toddlers or near the kitchen.

Back in Jesus’ day, a Pharisee had a dinner party and, unlike me, he didn’t provide place cards for his guests. Jesus watched as the guests jockeyed for the best places—the seats of power and distinction—which were closest to the host. As the men maneuvered around the couches, playing a game of one-upmanship and a grown-up version of musical chairs without the music, Jesus stood back and told a story about a wedding banquet. Illustrating the wisdom of not rushing to grab the best seats, He spoke of the importance of humility and pointed out that honor is not something that is taken but rather something that is given. After hearing that those who exalt themselves will be humbled and those who humble themselves will be exalted, I wonder if any of the guests changed their seats.

After subtly rebuking the Pharisee’s guests, Jesus turned to his host and continued his message about entertaining. Although we simply want to share a happy occasion with those who love my mother-in-law, the Pharisee and his friends had hidden agendas when entertaining. They only extended hospitality to those who could repay the favor, as a way of impressing others or to improve their social status. Jesus pointed out that payback or profit hospitality is meaningless—hospitality is a gift and not an exchange of favors. It has nothing to do with pride, status, or power. He suggested inviting those who could never possibly reciprocate in kind.

Jesus wasn’t giving an etiquette lesson about seating arrangements and party invitations. He was giving us all a lesson in humility, service, kindness, generosity, grace and love—all of which have nothing to do with getting and everything to do with giving. Jesus welcomes everyone into His Kingdom even though none of us deserve an invitation let alone a place seated at His table!

Then, addressing his host, Jesus said, “When you give a luncheon or a dinner party, don’t invite your friends or your brothers or relations or wealthy neighbors, for the chances are they will invite you back, and you will be fully repaid. No, when you give a party, invite the poor, the lame, the crippled and the blind. That way lies real happiness for you. They have no means of repaying you, but you will be repaid when good men are rewarded—at the resurrection.” [Luke 14:12-14 (PHILLIPS)]

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NOT SO INNOCENT BYSTANDERS

Here is a simple, rule-of-thumb guide for behavior: Ask yourself what you want people to do for you, then grab the initiative and do it for them. Add up God’s Law and Prophets and this is what you get. [Matthew 7:12 (MSG)]

giraffes Back in 1964, it was the slaying of Kitty Genovese in New York City. For thirty-five minutes, at least 38 people watched a killer stalk and murder her. Twice the attacker was frightened off by lights or voices but, when the police didn’t arrive and no one came to the woman’s aid, her assailant returned to continue his vicious attack. Apparently, the only call to the police was made after the woman was dead.

The Genovese story made headlines across the nation in 1964 and I had no trouble remembering her story and name today. Nowadays, however, stories like hers don’t seem to give us pause. In February of this year, a Chicago man was sucker-punched, knocked unconscious, and landed in the street. Surveillance footage shows that more than a dozen bystanders failed to come to his aid in the nearly two minutes before a cab accidentally hit him. No one tried to pull him out of the street or even to stop traffic. In fact, within seconds of his being punched, while others watched, two men ran up and rifled his pockets, taking his wallet and cell phone. The young man died from his injuries a few hours later. Last April, a girl was attacked by a man and woman on a Chicago commuter train. As she screamed for help, fellow passengers on the train did nothing to help—they simply watched as the nineteen-year old was brutally beaten. Even more shocking is that, after the attack, rather than calling the police or coming to her aid, the witnesses left the train car. More than fifty years have passed and people still won’t get involved. Worse, in this era when onlookers post videos of muggings, schoolyard attacks and rapes, stories like these no longer seem to shock us.

As Christians, we know that we should treat others as we want to be treated. We’re sure that we would never be the kind of bystander who ignores a cry for help and picture ourselves as being the Good Samaritan. In reality, most of us would probably be more like the priest or Levite and avert our eyes or go the opposite way. This attitude of indifference is so prevalent that psychologists have a name for it: Bystander Apathy. Apparently, the greater the number of witnesses, the less likely we are to help. First, we look to others for clues—if they don’t appear to think help is necessary, neither do we. Second, with more bystanders, each person feels less individual responsibility. Surely, someone else has called for help we think as we walk away. Studies have shown that when others are present, people will help only 20% of the time but, when there is only one bystander, the likelihood of offering help raises to 80%. 80%, however, is not good enough.

As you might have guessed, the text for a recent sermon was the parable of the Good Samaritan. An interesting question was asked: who do you think represents Jesus in the story? The obvious answer is the Samaritan because he had mercy, showed love, paid the man’s debt and promised to return. It was suggested that we also consider the victim as a Jesus figure. He was beaten, stripped, and left to die, as was our Lord. He was ignored by the pious Jews, as was Jesus. He was accepted by the outcast Gentile, as was Jesus. I couldn’t help but think of our Lord’s warning that when we ignore the needs of others, we’ve ignored Him. While we may be willing to pay no attention to the screams of a woman in an alley, an unconscious man in the street, or a girl’s plea for help, are we willing to ignore the cries of our Lord?

Father, forgive us for being indifferent and unresponsive to our brothers and sisters. Instead of looking to others to know how to react, remind us to look to you. Don’t let us turn our backs to those in need; give us courage enough to become involved.

Then those ‘sheep’ are going to say, “Master, what are you talking about? When did we ever see you hungry and feed you, thirsty and give you a drink? And when did we ever see you sick or in prison and come to you?” Then the King will say, “I’m telling the solemn truth: Whenever you did one of these things to someone overlooked or ignored, that was me—you did it to me.” … He will answer them, “I’m telling the solemn truth: Whenever you failed to do one of these things to someone who was being overlooked or ignored, that was me—you failed to do it to me.” [Matthew 25:37-40,45 (MSG)]

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SERVE THE LORD WITH GLADNESS

Worship the Lord your God and only the Lord your God. Serve him with absolute single-heartedness. [Luke 4:8 (MSG)]

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In The Book of Common Prayer, Psalm 100 begins with the words, “O be joyful in the Lord, all ye lands; serve the Lord with gladness, and come before his presence with a song.” As a girl, I frequently read those words in my prayer book before worship began. I thought of them again last Sunday. Following the recessional, the visiting pastor exclaimed, “Our worship has ended, let our service begin!” During worship, I’d made a joyful noise and come before the Lord with a song. The minister’s words reminded me that now was the time to serve Him with gladness. The hour or so spent in worship on Sundays is just a small part of a Christian’s life. God blesses us with another 167 hours in the week. How will we choose to serve Him in that time?

Heavenly Father, thank you for the reminder that when our worship ends, the real work of furthering your Kingdom begins. May we not just hear your word, but comprehend it. May we not just say your word, but live it. Let your word turn into our works and cause our faith to turn into action. May we always serve you with gladness.

The greatest single cause of atheism in the world today is Christians: who acknowledge Jesus with their lips, walk out the door, and deny Him by their lifestyle. That is what an unbelieving world simply finds unbelievable. [Kevin Max]

 I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted and behold, service was joy. [Rabindranath Tagore]

So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you. [Romans 12:1-2 (MSG)]

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CHRISTIAN FELLOWSHIP

All the believers devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching, and to fellowship, and to sharing in meals (including the Lord’s Supper,) and to prayer. [Acts 2:42 (NLT)]

egret at clam passI watched the snowy egret at the beach and couldn’t quite decide if he was an exceptionally smart bird, just plain lazy, or a little of both. Egrets are excellent fishermen and will wade in the shallows stirring up the water with their feet to flush out delicacies like fish, frogs, and crayfish. Other times, they exhibit great patience as they stand nearly immobile for several minutes just waiting for their prey to come near enough for them to strike and catch dinner.

This egret, however, wasn’t wading in the water; he was cruising the beach and visiting various fishermen. Cast netting for bait, the anglers were hurling their nets into the surf. While pulling in the bait-filled nets and dumping the contents in a bucket, a few of the minnows always fall out and that’s what this bird was awaiting. Apparently, he prefers carry-out to hunting and may even prefer shop-lifting if he snatches minnows out of the buckets. Clearly, he wants others to do the work while he reaps the benefits. I look at our churches and think we have a lot of people who are like that egret—people who are willing to let the other guys do most or even all of the work.

The early church devoted itself to learning from the Apostles, eating together, prayers, and fellowship. They didn’t just have fellowship, they dedicated themselves to it. Today, many church-goers would define Christian fellowship as having coffee with other parishioners before or after church. Fellowship in the first century, however, meant much more than that and continues to mean more today. Christian fellowship is concern and commitment to one another; it is caring for and sharing with one another. Moreover, we need to share more than our beliefs, activities, interests, communion or coffee. For true Christian fellowship, we need to share our responsibilities and work, especially if we are to fulfill the call to care for one another.

The volunteers at our church were recently recognized while the rest of the congregation stood and gave them a round of applause. Remembering that we don’t just attend a church but are part of one, rather than giving our church volunteers a hand, we need to think about giving them both of our hands, sharing in their responsibilities, and enjoying true Christian fellowship with our brothers and sisters in Christ!

Is there any encouragement from belonging to Christ? Any comfort from his love? Any fellowship together in the Spirit? Are your hearts tender and compassionate? Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose. Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had. [Philippians 2:1-5 (NLT)]

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STUFF AND SUCH

Then he said, “Beware! Guard against every kind of greed. Life is not measured by how much you own.” [Luke 12:15 (NLT]

squirrelAn illustration of a man stooped over with an enormous sack on his back adorned the cover of the church program. The man had a troubled look on his face as if thinking, “I’ve got this all this, now what I am supposed to do with it?” The words “Life does not consist in the abundance of possessions,” were superimposed over the picture.

Jesus told a parable about a rich man who needed to build a bigger barn to store all of his grain and goods. That very night, he died and everything he’d amassed was lost—left for someone else to have and enjoy.  Most of us have way too much stuff but, instead of bigger barns, we buy larger houses, install cabinets in the garage, rent storage units or build sheds to house our things.

Stuff and such—we all have it and, chances are, we all have way more than we need or can possibly use. I don’t think I realized how much stuff we’d acquired until we sold two vacation homes this past summer. One home had been ours for thirty-seven years and the other for twenty nine and a whole lot of stuff and such can be accumulated in that amount of time. Although we sold both homes furnished and much was left for the new owners, there was plenty that had to be removed. As we decided what would go to our kids and friends, the charity resale shop or Goodwill, the dump, or back home with us, I realized (and was embarrassed by) the quantity of stuff we’d managed to amass over the years. How many parkas, boots, jeans, sweaters, caps, sneakers, and gloves do we need, especially when there are so many without any coat, pants or shoes? How many CDs, DVDs, books, games, and toys does a family need when there are children who don’t even have a set of crayons? I was shocked at how large we’d allowed that bag on our backs to get and how little we appreciated all that was in it.

We own our possessions but, if we’re not careful, our possessions can come to own us. When our stuff and such become a burden, as they were for the man on the church program, it’s not time to build a bigger barn; it’s time to get rid of something! Possessions, when no longer used or appreciated, belong in someone else’s barn! Then, instead of building a bigger barn for our things, we can build bigger barns to shelter the homeless, heal the ill, teach the uneducated, and feed the hungry. Let’s never make the mistake of thinking that, “He who dies with the most toys, wins!” As Jesus pointed out, that man doesn’t win, he just dies!

Abundance isn’t God’s provision for me to live in luxury. It’s his provision for me to help others live. God entrusts me with his money not to build my kingdom on earth, but to build his kingdom in heaven. [Randy Alcorn]

Sell your possessions and give to those in need. This will store up treasure for you in heaven! And the purses of heaven never get old or develop holes. Your treasure will be safe; no thief can steal it and no moth can destroy it.  Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be. [Luke 12:33-34 (NLT)]

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JUST DESERTS

There is a saying, “Love your friends and hate your enemies.” But I say: Love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! In that way you will be acting as true sons of your Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust too. [Matthew 5:43-45 (TLB)]

There’s no need for revenge. Just sit back and wait. Those who hurt you will eventually screw up themselves and, if you’re lucky, God will let you watch! [Anonymous bit of Internet wisdom]

thistleLike many, I mistook the phrase, “just deserts” for “just desserts.” The phrase comes from a now obsolete meaning of the word “desert” which was something deserved or merited. However we spell or say it, we tend to take a certain amount of pleasure when our enemies, adversaries, and those people who manage to make our lives difficult or downright miserable get what they deserve. “Poetic justice,” we say while watching them reap the consequences of their actions. Bad attitudes, excess drama, inappropriate behavior, substandard performance, selfishness, pettiness, laziness and insubordination all have a way of catching up with people. It’s hard to have any sympathy for them when they end up in a world of hurt of their own making. Jesus doesn’t tell us we have to be sympathetic but He does say we have to love and pray for them! We don’t have to allow their poison to seep into our lives, make excuses for them, enable them, tolerate horrible behavior, or become embroiled in their drama, but we do have to love and pray!

It’s way too easy to chuckle and take pleasure in seeing the tables turn on the problematic people in our lives. That’s simply Satan tempting us to be petty and vengeful. If God lets us watch as they sink into the hole they dug for themselves, it’s not to take pleasure in their dilemma; it’s so that we can love them, pray for them and maybe even offer a helping hand.

Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts. [Buddha]

If you love only those who love you, what good is that? Even scoundrels do that much. If you are friendly only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even the heathen do that. But you are to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect. [Matthew 5:46-48 (TLB)]

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