NO WORDS OF COMFORT

Don’t let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God, and trust also in me. There is more than enough room in my Father’s home. If this were not so, would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you? When everything is ready, I will come and get you, so that you will always be with me where I am. [John 14:1-3 (NLT)]

water lilyThe next day would have been Sally’s wedding anniversary but, because it marked the six-month anniversary of her husband’s death, there would be no celebration. Instead of flowers, dinner, and romance, there would be tears. That morning, Sally called her step-mother, Sue, to share her dread of the following day. When telling us this, Sue admitted to being at a loss for words of consolation. A woman of faith and an ordained pastor, Sue’s difficulty in finding comforting words was because her step-daughter is Jewish. When Sue married Sally’s Jewish father, she respected her new family’s faith just as they respected hers. They knew her beliefs and what she did for a living and Sue gladly answers their questions. Nevertheless, she chooses her words carefully when speaking of the Lord and neither evangelizes nor condemns. Although her words that morning were as reassuring as they could be without speaking of Jesus, Sue knew they were nowhere near as comforting as they could have been.

In the Hebrew Bible, Sheol is mentioned as the place of the dead and the idea of a resurrection appears in Daniel and Isaiah. The Talmud contains references to heaven (Gan Eden), hell (Gehinnom), and the World to Come. Unfortunately, the who, when, what, how, and where details are missing and Judaism is ambiguous (and often contradictory) about what actually happens when one dies. Sue said she listened carefully during her son-in-law’s funeral and interment for words of comfort but heard none. After reading the Jewish funeral prayer El Maleh Rachamin and their Mourner’s Kaddish, I had to agree.

Had Sally been a believer, Sue might have told her daughter-in-law that she was not alone in distress and reminded her of the time Jesus walked on water and stilled the storm. We have a God who knows when we’re in trouble, is willing to walk on water to reach us, and will bring us peace in the middle of the tempest! Sue would have told Sally how much God loves her—so much so that He gave His one and only son so that all who believe would not perish but have eternal life. She would have comforted her with the story of Lazarus and Jesus’ words to Martha that He was the resurrection and the life and that anyone who believed in Him would live even after dying. Then again, maybe the widow would have found Revelation’s promise that He will wipe every tear and there will be no more tears, mourning, or death comforting. Sadly, those words are of little cheer to one who refuses to believe.

No words can take away the sorrow of a young woman suddenly losing her beloved husband, the father of her three small children, but there is much in our faith that can ease that pain. No Christian is left to face sorrow alone; we have a Savior, a Comforter, and the reassuring and powerful promises of Scripture. Thank you, Jesus.

Death to the Christian is the funeral of all his sorrows and evils and the resurrection of all his joys. [James H. Aughey]

I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid. [John 14:27 (NLT)]

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HONING

As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. [27:17 (NLT)]

This proverb about iron sharpening iron reminds me of Sunday dinners when I was a girl. After the roast beef was placed in front of my father, he picked up the carving knife and a steel rod. With dramatic flair, he would run the knife back and forth against the steel before carving the meat. For the perfect slice of beef, he used iron to “sharpen” iron.

At the time, I thought he was sharpening the blade; instead, he was honing it. Whenever a knife is used, its sharp edge begins to bend and catch on whatever is being cut. Pulling a knife’s blade along a honing steel brings its rough edges back into an upright position so the knife can perform at its best. A whetstone is necessary to sharpen a dull or damaged knife. But, because it rubs away some of the blade to create a brand-new edge, the more a knife is sharpened, the thinner the blade gets and the shorter its lifespan.

Just as there is a difference between a steel honing rod and a whetstone, constructive comments and words of correction differ from harsh criticism and disparagement—one enriches and improves while the other gradually diminishes. When called to do a little sharpening, we should proceed prayerfully and gently, always remembering that we should be more like honing steels than whetstones. Rather than grinding off any mettle, our purpose is to enhance by smoothing out the rough edges. Moses’ father-in-law Jethro did some honing when he pointed out Moses’ mistake in thinking he could manage two million people by himself. Jethro offered excellent advice on how to delegate responsibility and Moses became a better leader because he listened.

While a carving knife has no choice about accepting that steel rod, we do. Nevertheless, if we want to maintain our sharpness, be properly aligned, and work at our best, a little honing might be necessary. Solomon’s son Rehoboam certainly didn’t take his father’s warning that, “Fools think their own way is right, but the wise listen to others.” [Pro 12:15] Rather than accepting sage counsel from his father’s trusted advisors, he turned to his sycophantic friends because they would tell him what he wanted to hear! His foolishness and their poor advice resulted in a divided kingdom of Israel.

God puts wise people in our lives for a reason and it’s for more than encouragement. Matthew Henry said their purpose is to “improve both others and ourselves…to provoke one another to love and to good works and so to make one another wiser and better.” Like Moses, we can accept the correction that comes from those who love us or, like Rehoboam, we can resist the honing and insist on doing it our way. Just as we are tested by the way we respond to praise, we are tested by the way we respond to correction and constructive criticism. In both cases, we must remain humble and thankful.

The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism. [Norman Vincent Peale]

If you listen to constructive criticism, you will be at home among the wise. If you reject discipline, you only harm yourself; but if you listen to correction, you grow in understanding. [Proverbs 15:31-32 (NLT)]

Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy. [Proverbs 27:6 (NLT)]

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I’M BUSY

Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Those who want to come with me must say no to the things they want, pick up their crosses, and follow me.” [Matthew 16:24 (GW)]

bee on sunflower“I’m so busy!” If there’s even a remote possibility that we might be asked to do something we’d rather avoid, we can cut off the request at the pass by starting the conversation with those words. It’s the perfect out. On the other hand, when said to us, we can’t argue with it.

Both Luke and Mark tells the story of four men who weren’t too busy to carry their paralyzed friend on a pallet to see Jesus in Capernaum. Once there, they were unable to get their friend through the mass of people crowding into the house where Jesus was preaching. Undeterred by the crowd, they hauled the paralyzed man up to the roof, dug a hole through the thatch, and lowered him down to the room. Determined to bring the paralyzed man to Jesus, these friends weren’t too busy, even when helping him became a major undertaking and an engineering feat!

Consider Job’s friends—despite their business and family obligations, they weren’t too busy to drop everything and travel from their homes to offer him solace. These men didn’t just stop by to leave a covered casserole and offer quick condolences; they silently sat with Job for seven days. While there were errors in their theology, their intentions were good.

Mark tells us about a blind man in Bethsaida whose friends brought him to Jesus and begged the Lord to touch and heal him. The man regained sight because his friends weren’t too busy to bring him to the Lord. Consider the seven men the early church commissioned to serve the needs of the widows in their midst. These men already had jobs and other obligations but Stephen, Philip, and the others weren’t too busy to take on an extra task for the church.

No matter how filled our calendars are, we all manage to find time to do the things important to us. Even though Martha was busy preparing supper for Jesus and the disciples, she could have found time to listen to Jesus. It’s simply a matter of priorities. How much of our busyness is necessary and how much is needless or unproductive? How much of our time is spent working ineffectively, keeping busy while accomplishing nothing, or giving undue importance to trivialities? Are we intentional about the way we spend our time? While God doesn’t expect us to give an automatic “yes” to every request, He probably doesn’t want an automatic “no” either and “I’m busy” is just an easier way of saying, “No!”

Being busy can hinder more than our relationships with people; it hinders our time with God! No matter what’s on our schedule, we must never be too busy for Him as was Martha. Yet, we often start our prayers with that very complaint or answer His call with that response. He knows exactly how busy we are and how we spend (or waste) our time and energy. We need to listen and pray before deciding we’re too busy for friends, family, or God. Even though He runs the entire universe, God is never too busy for us; how can we possibly think we’re too busy for Him? Jesus told us the greatest commandment was to love God and the next was to love our neighbor as ourselves. May we never find ourselves too busy to do either one!

One reason we are so harried and hurried is that we make yesterday and tomorrow our business, when all that legitimately concerns us is today. If we really have too much to do, there are some items on the agenda which God did not put there. Let us submit the list to Him and ask Him to indicate which items we must delete. There is always time to do the will of God. If we are too busy to do that, we are too busy. [Elisabeth Elliot]

I encourage you to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, dedicated to God and pleasing to him. This kind of worship is appropriate for you. Don’t become like the people of this world. Instead, change the way you think. Then you will always be able to determine what God really wants—what is good, pleasing, and perfect. [Romans 12:1b-2 (GW)]

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STUMBLING BLOCKS – (Part 1)

Let us therefore no longer pass judgment on one another, but resolve instead never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of another. [Romans 14:13 (NRSV)]

Having witnessed Jesus’ God-like power over nature when He walked on water, the disciples recognized Him as “the Son of God!” [Mat 14:32] Recognizing Jesus’ divinity, however, did not mean they understood He was the Messiah. While Jesus’ power to heal, multiply food, still storms, and walk on water implied a godlike nature, most 1st century Jews didn’t expect the Messiah to be divine. Expecting a righteous judge and a great political and military leader coming from the lineage of David, they assumed he would be a human being. So, when Jesus asked His disciples who people thought He was, they said John the Baptist, Elijah, Jeremiah, or another one of the prophets—godly men who performed miracles, spoke of judgment, and called the people to return to covenant faithfulness.

Jesus then asked the men, “But who do you say I am?” With insight that came from God, Peter identified Jesus as “the Messiah, the Son of the living God.”[16:15] He understood that Jesus was both divine and the Messiah! Blessing the disciple, Jesus gave Simon (meaning “hearer”) the new name of Peter (meaning “rock”). When the disciple recognized Jesus as both the Messiah and “the Son of the living God,” the hearer became the foundation rock upon which the new church would be built.

Following Peter’s confession of faith, Jesus began to tell his disciples the implications of His Messiahship. He clearly described His suffering and death at the hands of the Jewish high court. Unfortunately, like the rest of the disciples, Peter believed the Messiah had come to provide economic and political relief for the Jews—not atone for our sins with His blood.  Still thinking about an earthly kingdom, Peter took Jesus aside and said, “God forbid it, Lord! This must never happen to you.” [16:22]

It was then that Jesus addressed the rock as “Satan” and called him a “stumbling block.” In an instant, the man to whom Jesus gave the keys to the Kingdom and a name meaning rock had become a stumbling block and a tool for Satan! Like Satan’s temptations in the wilderness, Peter’s words tempted the Lord to thwart God’s plan and achieve greatness without suffering and death. Jesus roundly rebuked the disciple for wanting to put man’s plan ahead of God’s.

Hoping to protect Jesus from the suffering He’d predicted, Peter didn’t deliberately choose to be Satan’s tool. His error was in assessing the situation from his viewpoint rather than God’s. Having just proclaimed Jesus as the Son of the living God, Peter should have known that God had the situation firmly in control and that the only plan that mattered was God’s!

With Peter we see how easy it is to unwittingly move from being a rock to a stumbling block. Are we rocks—the solid people who can be relied upon, the ones who encourage, who can be trusted to hold things together, the firm foundations who support those who are weak and lift those who fall? Is ours a rock-solid faith that will follow God’s plan wherever it takes us? Or, like stumbling blocks—do we ever discourage, hinder progress, or cause doubt? Could our hypocrisy or less than stellar behavior hinder our witness? Even unintentionally, are we stumbling blocks that trip up the faith of those around us?

We know that wasn’t the last time the Apostle would disappoint the Lord. He wasn’t perfect and neither are we. Nevertheless, Peter proved to be the rock upon which Christ’s church was built. Like the Apostle, we too can be rocks that serve as stepping stones to further God’s purpose.

Jesus said to his disciples, “Occasions for stumbling are bound to come, but woe to anyone by whom they come! It would be better for you if a millstone were hung around your neck and you were thrown into the sea than for you to cause one of these little ones to stumble.” [Luke 17:1-2 (NRSV)]

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RETALIATE OR FORGIVE – FORGIVENESS (3)

But I say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you. …. Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful. [Luke 6:27-28,36 (ESV)]

black vultureWhen writing about forgiveness these last few days, I wondered why we find it so difficult to forgive. Perhaps it’s because, in our troubled hearts, we want to even the score before doing so. Wanting to retaliate in some way, bitterness and resentment grow and eat at us until we can extract our pound of flesh.

For one woman, the opportunity for retaliation didn’t arise until her father died and she wrote his blistering obituary. Contemptuous of the man, she said he lived “29 years longer than expected and much longer than he deserved!” and called him a “horse’s ass!” After naming his “relieved children,” she said he left behind ”countless other victims including an ex-wife, relatives, friends, neighbors, doctors, nurses and random strangers.” Calling the man, “a model example of bad parenting combined with…a complete commitment to drinking, drugs, womanizing and being generally offensive,” she added that he joined the Navy as part of a plea deal to avoid criminal charges. Along with being described as reckless, wasteful, and having no redeeming qualities, he was accused of abusing his family, squandering their money, and being cruel to animals.

Explaining “there will be no prayers for eternal peace and no apologizes to the family he tortured,” she added that the man’s cremains would be kept in the barn until the “donkey’s wood shavings run out.” The obituary closed with the words that his passing “proves that evil does in fact die and hopefully marks a time of healing and safety for all.” The angry words in this scathing obituary were the family’s way of extracting their pound of flesh from the man.

Reading those words saddened me when I read them in 2017 and they continue to trouble me today. Perhaps the man’s family found the spiteful obituary cathartic, but publicly cataloguing the dead man’s wrongs accomplished nothing. Even though their contemptuous words remain on the funeral home’s website today, the man they hated will never read them! I suspect the sweet taste of revenge his family may have felt when the obituary was posted left them with a bitter aftertaste.

When harmed, it’s natural to want payback. Natural, however, isn’t necessarily right and justice and vengeance are God’s department and His alone. Rather than meeting evil with more evil, Jesus tells us we are to meet evil with grace and to do all we can to live in peace with everyone. As Christ’s followers, we are expected to extend grace and forgiveness.

I can only pray that this man’s passing has provided healing for those whose lives he touched. That healing, however, won’t come until they finally forgive him and let go of the past. Like their anger, forgiveness can’t change their past but, unlike anger, forgiveness can change their future! Unlike the bitter aftertaste of anger and revenge, forgiveness always tastes sweet!

 To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. [Lewis B. Smedes]

If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” [Romans 12:18-20 (ESV)]

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FORGETTING – FORGIVENESS (1)

The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love. He will not always chide, nor will he keep his anger forever. He does not deal with us according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his steadfast love toward those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us. [Psalm 103:8-12 (ESV)]

scarlet swamp hibiscusWhen Moravian missionaries first arrived in the Arctic, they found no single word in the Inuktitut language for forgiveness. That doesn’t mean the Inuit people didn’t let go of past wrongs, just that they didn’t have a single world for doing so. Since forgiveness is an essential concept in Christianity, the missionaries wanted a single word that captured the kind of forgiveness found in Psalm 103. Using Inuktitut words, they came up issumagijoujungnainermik meaning “not-being-able-to-think-about-it-anymore.” This 24-letter multi-syllable word beautifully describes the God who will “cast all our sins into the depths of the sea” [Micah 7:19], who vows to “forgive their iniquity, and…remember their sin no more,” [Jeremiah 31:34], and who promises to blot out our transgressions and not remember our sins.[Isaiah 43:25]

The kind of forgiveness expressed in issumagijoujungnainermik is not limited to God. That is the kind of forgiveness we Christ-followers are to have for the offenses of others. A story about nursing pioneer and Red Cross founder Clara Barton illustrates issumagijoujungnainermik.  When a friend reminded Barton of a spiteful act done to her years earlier, she acted as if it never happened. When the friend questioned, “Don’t you remember it?” Barton vehemently replied, “No! I distinctly remember forgetting it.” True forgiveness is deliberately choosing not to remember that wrong. Without our deliberate effort to put offenses aside, it’s easy for past hurts to weasel their way right back into our hearts and minds.

A recent Pickles comic strip (drawn by Brian Crane) illustrates what forgiveness isn’t. In it, Earl asks his wife Opal, “Are you mad at me for some reason?” When she reminds him that he left the refrigerator door open all night, he explains, “I didn’t mean to…I said I was sorry.” The repentant husband adds, “You said you were going to forgive and forget.” After replying that she did “forgive and forget,” Opal continues, “I just don’t want you to forget that I forgot and forgave.” Storing up our grievances and then reminding people of our forgiveness isn’t “not-being-able-to-think-about-it-anymore.” Still holding on to her grievance, it looks like Opal needs a lesson in issumagijoujungnainermik!

While it’s easy to forget where we put our glasses or keys (as both Opal and Earl frequently do), it’s not so easy to forget a wrong. Like Opal, do we say we forgive but fail to forget? D.L Moody would say that’s like burying “the hatchet with the handle sticking out of the ground, so you can grasp it the minute you want it.” It’s only by the power of the Spirit that we can practice issumagijoujungnainermik!

I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note – torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one. [Henry Ward Beecher]

Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. [Ephesians 4:31-32 (ESV)]

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