The Lord detests all the proud of heart. Be sure of this: They will not go unpunished. [Proverbs 16:5 (NIV)]
With few exceptions, when we find mention of pride in Scripture, it has a negative connotation. It refers to arrogance, conceit, disrespect, haughtiness, and effrontery. Often called stubborn, insolent, willful, and selfish, prideful people don’t fare well in Scripture. Consider Pharaoh whose pride made him stubbornly defy the power of God; as a result, his entire nation suffered plague after plague, he lost his eldest son, and his entire army was decimated. Lucifer’s insolence and pride got him evicted from heaven. Nebuchadnezzar’s conceitful boasting resulted in the king living as a field animal and eating grass for seven years! When arrogant King Uzziah overstepped boundaries and burned incense in Temple (something only priests could do), the proud king became an outcast leper. Indeed, “pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall.” [Proverbs 16:18]
Since Scripture makes it clear that pride is a sin, where does that leave us when we enjoy the satisfied feeling of a job well done or the pleasure of receiving praise? What emotion is appropriate when we have attained a goal or succeeded at a difficult task? What feeling can we share with someone who has achieved something extraordinary? If not pride, what?
I confess to feeling good when I receive a compliment on a devotion I’ve written, a sermon I’ve given, a cookie I baked, or a meal I served. I’m proud of the accomplishments of my children and grands. Is that wrong? Since the Apostle Paul admits to pride and to boasting about the Corinthians and Thessalonians, the Lord, the cross, and his hope, there appears to be a good or acceptable kind of pride.
Good pride has a sense of worth and is earned through effort and hard work; sinful pride over-estimates its worth and is competitive by nature. Rather than doing its best, it just wants to do better than others. Good pride makes a realistic assessment of itself and sees its faults. Sinful pride, however, has an inflated ego blind to its faults; instead of self-esteem, it is more like a low regard for everyone else. Good pride, like the pride Paul had in the Corinthians and Thessalonians, encourages others because it isn’t threatened by their success. Generous, it takes satisfaction in others’ accomplishments. On the other hand, sinful pride discourages and demeans; selfish, it takes satisfaction only in itself. While good pride is humble, quiet, and self-assured, the other arrogantly blusters and brags.
The biggest distinction between good and sinful pride is its relationship to God. Good pride sees the need for God and has confidence in His power but sinful pride has confidence only in self and sees no need for God (or anyone else). Good pride exalts and worships God. It takes no credit for God’s gifts and, if it boasts, like Paul, it boasts only of what God’s grace has accomplished. Sinful pride, however, exalts and worships itself, takes all the credit, and sings only its own praises.
Rather than two different prides, could pride exist on a continuum with acceptable or good pride on one end and sinful pride on the other. After all, there must be a continuum for other sins. At some point, enjoying good food (which is not sinful) can move into over-eating and then onto gluttony (which is a sin). For that matter, at what point does admiration turn into envy, desire into lust, or conversation turn into gossip? Somewhere on those scales, what’s acceptable becomes what’s not.
Let us be cautious of self-reliance and over-confidence, lest our acceptable (and humble) sense of pride imperceptibly slides down the line toward conceit, arrogance, haughtiness, and self-glorification. We must never forget that anything we’ve managed to accomplish was possible only because God encouraged, empowered, equipped, and sustained us.
If you have anything to be proud of, remember what it is and that it is not your own, but has been given or lent to you by God, who especially hates pride. [Richard Baxter]
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